Reasons African Parents act the way they do(An interview)

 

Wagwan!!

I contacted few African teenagers to ask questions about the awkward things African Parents do and then I contacted African parents to ask the reasons behind the actions stated by the teenagers

Below are the conversations I had with them 

[27/03, 19:54] Kiekie's Corner: Good evening Ma

[27/03, 19:54] Kiekie's Corner: This is Kiekie from blogspot 

We're working on a content about African Parenthood and we'd like to ask a few questions if you don't mind ma 

Can we go ahead?

[31/03, 15:49] African Parent 1: Yes

[31/03, 15:49] Kiekie's Corner: So the theme of the content is "reasons behind the actions of every African parent"

So I took a survey with teens who had questions to ask and I'd forward the questions

[31/03, 15:49] Kiekie's Corner: ●beating kids that aren't their children  too

[31/03, 15:49] Kiekie's Corner: ●.they don't usually listen to their childs opinions....they make the choices them selves.

●when they ask you questions and get mad for replying 😭

●they  don't like apologising

[31/03, 15:49] Kiekie's Corner: So this person was asking why afri an parents do these

[31/03, 15:49] Kiekie's Corner: African*

[31/03, 15:50] African Parent 1: We believe that as children they are not mature to make decisions

[31/03, 15:51] African Parent 1: We feel it is disrespectful to reply your elders when they are talking

[31/03, 15:52] African Parent 1: They feel apologising will Belittle them before their child

[31/03, 15:53] African Parent 1: It is believed that not only one person trains a child

[31/03, 15:53] African Parent 1: If the child is good 

He's good for everyone

[31/03, 15:53] Kiekie's Corner: Hmmmm

OK ma

[31/03, 15:55] Kiekie's Corner: The first question is from a female 

She said 

"Why are African parents against male friends for their girl child?"

[31/03, 15:56] African Parent 1: To avoid them from being misled

As they might not be able to decipher between a normal relationship and when it goes overboard

[31/03, 15:57] Kiekie's Corner: So in conclusion,

You're saying these actions displayed by african parents is in a bit to protect their children?

[31/03, 15:57] African Parent 1: Yes

[31/03, 15:57] Kiekie's Corner: Thanks for your time ma

That above was our discussion with the first parent

[02/04, 11:26] Kiekie's Corner: Good day

This is Kiekie from blogspot We're working on a content about African Parenthood and we'd like to ask a few questions if you don't 

We spoke to a few teenagers and they had series of questions to ask 

These are the questions we'll be posing to you

[02/04, 11:40] Mrs Christianah: Go ahead please

[02/04, 12:15] Kiekie's Corner: The first person asked 

"Why don't parents allow their children to be friends with the opposite gender"?

[02/04, 16:22] Mrs Christianah: Well in my own case, I allow my kids to make friends with the opposite gender but I ensure that every relationship is defined. They must know what they are doing. I think proper sex education is key.

[02/04, 18:45] Kiekie's Corner: Hmmm...I will agree with you on that ma

[02/04, 18:47] Kiekie's Corner: Ma what do you have to about scolding other people's kids 

Teenagers seem to believe it's wrong 

What's your say on that ma

[02/04, 21:22] Mrs Christianah: That is what civilisation has done to us. For me, there is nothing wrong with scolding other people's kids when they go wrong or when they are towing the wrong path. There is this Yoruba adage that 'It takes one person to give birth, but it takes a community to raise a child'

So, I feel that as long as there is no ulterior motive, there is absolutely nothing wrong. There is a high level of moral decadence today because the community no longer nurture the children therein.

[02/04, 21:29] Kiekie's Corner: Hmmmmm...

[02/04, 21:29] Kiekie's Corner: Just one last question ma

[02/04, 21:29] Kiekie's Corner: "Why do African parents pry their teenagers privacy"?

This question was from a male

[02/04, 21:30] Kiekie's Corner: I think at some stage teenagers begin to crave privacy and it begins to seem like the parents are nosey for trying to know everything going on 

What do you have to say about that ma'am

[02/04, 22:59] Mrs Christianah: Well, I think it's normal for a responsible African parent to want to pry their kid's privacy especially when they attain the teenage age because at this stage, they naturally want to hide so many things about changes taking place in them, their relationships, feelings and many other things happening to them. From experience, Intimacy with these kids even before they attain that stage could make them open up to their parents without necessarily been nosy. While i encourage teenagers to look beyond invasion of their privacy and see it as responsibility on the part of their parents to guide and counsel them towards making the right choices in life.

[02/04, 23:26] Kiekie's Corner: Hmmmm

[02/04, 23:26] Kiekie's Corner: Thanks for your time ma

The above was our interview with another parent

In as much as I'd like to paste all the conversations I had with our parents,I also can't ignore the fact that this content is getting too long and has taken so long to get compiled.

If you want a part two just leave it in the comments section and I'd paste the other conversations...till then I'd leave a summary of what they explained 

All their points come down to protecting and guiding their child and I believe teens just feel the actions are bothersome because of the stage in life they're experiencing and I believe with time they'll outgrow it 

BTW,I had so much fun creating this content and I hope you enjoyed reading it too😊 

Ty 💜

Your dearest writer,

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